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Rubble

Wednesday, October 29th, 2008

A very wise and sweet friend of mine gave me some great encouragement last week. Lately I’ve really felt like a lot of things in my life–things that really even defined who I was–have just been junked. Junked to the point where I feel like a wrecking ball has taken out nearly everything that made me feel ok about life…everything I clung to that gave me hope for the future. 

My friend told me that in a Bible study awhile back they’d been studying Haggai, where the temple had been demolished and the people were left despondently staring at rubble. But God promised them that something far more spectacular was going to be built in place of the old temple. My friend talked to me about how she’d been saddened by major changes in her life, and frustrated by expecting that things would be remade exactly as they had been…that things would be restored, and that’s what she wanted because she missed what was now gone. Then she said “I know it’s hard to believe it when you’re staring at the rubble, but I know that God is going to bring you something better.” 

I’m definitely there right now, and having been thinking about her words a lot this week. Thinking about how I really HAVE been staring at the rubble, kicking a piece here and there and still finding that there’s nothing left. No foundation to rebuild or to proceed how I’d planned. I literally have no idea what my life will be like this time next year….no idea about job, no idea about location, no idea about a lot of things. It’s hard to believe that things can change or improve. Right now I just feel sad and broken, and pretty lost, staring at the ruined pile of things I was good at, things I loved. But I trust that God is faithful and I know that He loves me. That’s all I have, and probably that’s how it was supposed to be all along. I can appreciate the lesson and the chance to grow, I only wish it didn’t have to hurt this much.

Jillangill is 12!

Saturday, October 25th, 2008

Year 12 was very traumatic for me. I was just starting junior high and on the first day of school got dumped! So awful, and my little heart was broken. Yes, this was back in the days when going out with someone meant absolutely nothing, and you get dumped by way of the guy’s friends. The journal entry I’ve chosen for you today involves one of the more humiliating events of my junior high career, or at least, it seemed humiliating at the time. The back-story is that I’d just found a new dude, Adam, to have a crush on, and I’d just learned that my favorite teacher was moving (she was replaced by a really large, unpleasant woman who used to make mumus out of the school shirts for spirit day). 

Wednesday, 9:36 p.m., September 13, 1995

Well, today was kind of a let-down day. Nothing special happened between Adam and I, and tomorrow I have to turn in two big assignments, have a chair test in F major in band, and I have to study for a quiz in math. But now I’m going to tell you about the biggest let-down of my entire day. This has to do mainly with Mrs. Barnett. Ok, Jennifer and I always go to the library during Reading, because we just need to talk to each other and stuff (since the only other time we see eachother is lunch). Anyways, two girls named Ashley and Sarah were there too. Now, I  don’t want you to get the wrong idea, Jennifer and I don’t always go to the library to fool around, but that day we were. Well, we decided to play hide-and-seek for a while. Jennifer was “it” and I hid over by where Ashley and Sarah were. They asked what I was doing, and when I told them they said that I should be going to the library to read, not play. Well, hide-and-seek gold old really fast, so me and Jennifer decided to play with the computers. We were looking up Psyco Hosebeast, when one of the librarians came and asked us what we were doing. Jennifer said that we were doing a report on Psyco’s, and she kicked us out. Now, I had almost reached the classroom when I heard someone say my name, I listened closer, and sure enough, Sarah and Ashley were tattling on us (very mature, don’t you think so?) I mean, they were acting like stuck-up first-graders. Anyways, by this time the whole class had heard. I was so embarassed. Mrs. Barnett gave us two speeches (that I’m sure the rest of the class heard) and now we can’t go to the library from that class ever again. How unfair. (frowny face)

Ah yes…I remember this well. Being yelled at by your favorite teacher in front of the whole class does sting. But I love how me and Jennifer (my best buddy) were running around the library, then I was pointing the “how immature” finger at the other girls for telling on us. Granted, tattling? Really? What’s up with that? And lastly, it’s no wonder nothing came up for “Psyco Hosebeast.” We totally spelled it wrong! Those librarians were such kill-joys. Props to Jennifer, wherever she is, on the quick thinking about the report on “Psyco’s”. Totally believable.

Always Grandma Winking

Tuesday, October 21st, 2008

Book #2 finally has some words on [electronic] paper! It’s already a huge challenge for me to write from a male perspective. Plus, I chose to make my main character 14. I envision him as a smart, sarcastic kid–think Dear Mr. Henshaw with a little more bite–but I don’t want to write another introvert. In terms of interests, he’s a swimmer and probably I’ll have him do something artistic as well…maybe drawing. I’m having a little trouble envisioning what will make this character unique and more interesting than another character I’ve thought up. A cardinal rule of writing is never to have a minor character that’s more interesting than your mc. Below is chapter one, which will likely undergo some revisions, but it just felt good to get something down. What do you guys think? :)

Chapter One

“Get your purple face out of here!”

            The owner of the purple-popsicle-streaked face, my little sister Sarah, stuck out her tongue in response before saying a final “Mom says to watch her,” but she did what I asked. She slammed the door behind her with as much gusto as I imagine her six-year-old frame could muster. It was ok, I knew she wasn’t really mad.

            I sighed and turned my attention back to gazing out the window—I couldn’t even bring myself to call it my window yet—in the new bedroom I was to occupy at Grandma’s house. Not yet my room…it didn’t even have my entire-wall-sized ocean wallpaper up yet. Until it did, it was just a room like any other.

            The view from the window was…just ok. I mean, not to sound spoiled or anything, but we used to live right near the ocean in Huntington Beach, California. I used to be able to look out my window and see the deep blue line of the Pacific…see clear blue sky and the sunshine filtering through the palm trees in our front yard. It always made me feel like the world was such a big, free place and that there would always be room for me to be me.

       You see, space is something I’ve really come to appreciate. I’m 14 years old and six-foot-four. I feel like this shapes my life events and my feelings about the world more than anything else about me, like how some people are hugely fat and can’t go to the movies because they don’t fit in the seats…kinda like that. Only with me, I have a hard time folding myself to fit comfortably in our teeny Geo Metro. Honestly, every time I’m in the passenger’s seat with my crazy-driver mom I pray to God that we won’t get into some sort of collision that would involve my kneecaps busting against the glove compartment. It wouldn’t take much, and I’m too young to be in a wheelchair.

         I also can’t stand the little phrases people throw in my general direction. Yes, I’m tall. I get it. Probably I should seriously consider getting a tattoo on my forehead that would tell people my height so they wouldn’t have to ask. Maybe I’d add “No, I do not play basketball” on there. I’m sure it would be a real time-saver, actually. But then again, most people probably wouldn’t be able to read something up this high, and those who could wouldn’t care.

      Sigh.

       A slow creaking on the stairs snapped my attention away from the not-my-window…the boring window that only afforded views of green, green, green Canyon City, Oregon as far as the eye could see. Oh, and an occasional glimpse of splotchy gray sky through the towering trees.

      “Ethan?”

      The papery voice warbled its way up the stairs and through the thin walls. Another prolonged creak reverberated through the house and I finally recognized what must be the labored sounds of my grandma making her way up the stairs. Which she is NOT supposed to do, Mom says.

         I covered the length of the room in approximately 1.5 strides of my grasshopper legs and pulled the door open. Sure enough, I spotted Grandma Lynn clutching the banister with both hands as she raised her foot unsteadily near the bottom of the stairwell. She looked small and lost as she searched for the stair, and I rushed down to her before she could lose her balance. Grandma Lynn had an accident three months ago that involved her, the stairs, some balance issues, and a resulting broken hip. Now we’re supposed to watch out for her and especially always help her up and down the stairs. She usually forgets that she’s supposed to ask one of us for help.

         With one arm I cradled Grandma Lynn and guided her back down the stairs and into her favorite chair by the sliding-glass door. These days I try not to think about how much smaller she seems than last time we visited. She looked up at me and seemed surprised.

       “George? What are you doing here?” she asked, reaching up with one moist hand to pat my cheek.

       “No Grandma, it’s me, Ethan.”

       Confusion darkened her features and she started to try out a response, and then stopped. After a few seconds she looked up at me again and just winked. She does that a lot, always has. Only, when I was little I think she did it more to make me feel special or when we had a secret. I’m not sure what to make of it anymore, though. Grandma really hasn’t been Grandma for a few years.

      Alzheimer’s. The first time I heard it I didn’t know what it was, but I googled it later and didn’t like what I found. Didn’t like it at all. Grandma had been going to a new doctor who ran some memory tests and diagnosed her with moderate Alzheimer’s. Sarah calls it “Old Timer’s.”

            All I know is that Grandma isn’t really the person she used to be. That’s why we moved up here, to help take care of Grandma. It happened to work out that Mom lost her job at her big fancy law firm and we were about to lose our house—which I’m not supposed to know about—but I’d like to think that wasn’t the only reason they sold the place to come to Grandma’s aid.

            Don’t get me wrong, it was pretty much awful leaving the beach behind and all my friends with it. We’d lived in Huntington Beach since I was a baby, and I honestly can’t imagine any other place feeling like home. Ever. Not to mention, my best friend Patrick is there. When I first found out we were moving, Mom practically lost her voice yelling at me, night and day, the key phrase involving “MAJOR ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT, MISTER!” Probably after that our neighbors were glad to see us go.

            Now, looking into Grandma Lynn’s face, I hope she never knows how much I hated the decision to come here. 

My Baby Nephews and the Rest of the Fam…

Saturday, October 18th, 2008

Greetings! This last weekend Jeremy and I drove to AZ to celebrate October birthdays, see our new baby nephews, and visit with my grandpa and cousin Brad who were also in town. An action-packed weekend! I really loved being around family and was thrilled to meet the new little ones. They are simply precious and my sister is an amazing mom! My cousin Brad is also super fun and CRAZY, and the heart-to-hearts with my parents and Grandpa are always very welcome. Here are a few pictures…Hudson and Graham actually do look very different from each other in person, take my word for it. ;)

Graham Bennett asleep in his car seat

Graham Bennett asleep in his car seat

 

Hudson Brandt in the swing chair

Hudson Brandt in the swing chair

 

Me with Graham, Amy with Hudson

Me with Hudson, Amy with Graham

 

Jeremy with Graham

Jeremy with Graham

 

Feeding time!

Feeding time!

 

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The fellas--I can't believe how big Canon is!

Makes it all worthwhile…

Monday, October 13th, 2008

Last Monday I went over to the postal place to mail my manuscript out to the afore-mentioned Random House contest. I was putting everything together and the girl behind the counter asks, “Is that a book?” I say yes, and she asks “Did you write it?” I look her in the eyes, smile, and reply “I did.” Her response: “That’s awesome!” And you know what? It is awesome. I’m proud of it and I’m glad I wrote it. Even if it never gets published, I created something that I enjoy and cherish. I did something that not everyone can do, and reading parts of that book still make me cry or laugh or just smile. 

This is what makes it all worthwhile. This is what writing is really about in the first place.

P.S. Just got back from AZ to celebrate October birthdays, visit with my grandpa, and see Amy’s new babies! Pictures and post to come!